Art of Aging: Moving or Getting Care

There comes a time in everyone’s life when a loved one can no longer can live on their own independently.

In Art of Aging, Russ and Leslie Knopp from Comfort Keepers share some tips and signs to look for when a loved one needs help.

  1. How do you know it’s the right time to move or get care?
  • She talks about feeling lonely, seems depressed, not wanting to participate in life.
  • It is impossible to maintain safety because of environment or need for assistance.
  • She starts talking about friends who have moved or gotten care.  This means she’s already thinking about it.
  1. What happens when adult children move their parents to be near them?
  • This can be catastrophic if you haven’t talked about expectations.
  • How much are you going to see them? Are you going to take them out? What’s your responsibility and time commitment?
  • Remember – they are giving up everything, their whole lifestyle is changing.
  • It can be great if everyone is on the same page.
  1. What can I do if my parents are adamant that they don’t need help?
  • This takes time, start the conversation early.
  • Compromise – could they agree to get in-home care?  Participate virtually in doctor appointments?
  • Remember that dignity is important and treating your loved one with the respect she deserves, is something you will never regret.
  1. What can you do to keep this from becoming a major source of conflict?
  • All about communication – with the parents, with your siblings if you are the adult child.
  • Hold yourself back – it may be urgent to you, not to them.
  • Don’t get rid of their “stuff” – it’s important to them even you think it’s junk.


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